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<h3>CHAPTERS 1 - 15</h3>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/for-the-man-in-a-relationship-troubled-by-sex-addiction.html">For The Man In a Relationship Troubled by Sex Addiction</a></div>
<span class="ucd_sec_cat">The Most Personal Addiction</span>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/is-he-sexually-addicted.html">Is The Man In Your Life Sexually Addicted?</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/if-you-lost-a-good-relationship-or-never-had-one.html">If You Lost A Good Relationship Or Never Had One</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/the-key-to-mental-health-and-overcoming-sex-addiction.html">The Key To Mental Health and Overcoming Sex Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/you-have-what-it-takes-to-stop-sex-addiction.html">You Have What It Takes To Stop Sex Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/stop-sex-addiction-here-and-now-naturally.html">Stop Sex Addiction Here and Now Naturally</a></div>
<span class="ucd_sec_cat">The Most Personal Addiction</span>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/rely-on-yourself-to-stop-sexual-addiction.html">Rely on Yourself To Stop Sexual Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/work-with-the-mind-to-stop-sex-addiction.html">Work With The Mind To Stop Sex Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/how-to-be-in-control-of-a-sexual-addiction.html">How To Be In Control of A Sexual Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/find-competent-help-to-overcome-sex-addiction.html">Find Competent Help To Overcome Sex Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/sexual-addiction-why-people-become-addicted.html">Sexual Addiction - Why People Become Addicted</a></div>
<span class="ucd_sec_cat">The Most Personal Addiction</span>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/sexual-addiction-misconceptions-to-avoid.html">Sexual Addiction - Misconceptions to Avoid</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/sexual-addiction-and-the-symptoms-of-addiction.html">Sexual Addiction and The Symptoms of Addiction</a></div>
<span class="ucd_sec_cat">The Most Personal Addiction</span>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/why-sexual-addiction-is-a-unique-addiction.html">Why Sexual Addiction Is A Unique Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/how-i-overcame-sex-addiction.html">How I Overcame Sex Addiction</a></div>
<span class="ucd_sec_cat">The Most Personal Addiction</span>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/an-overview-of-sex-addiction.html">An Overview of Sex Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/the-first-obstacle-to-overcoming-sexual-addiction.html">The First Obstacle to Overcoming Sexual Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/sexual-addiction-and-self-deception.html">Sexual Addiction and Self Deception</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/someone-close-to-you-is-addicted-to-sex.html">Someone Close To You Is Addicted To Sex</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/pornography-addiction-insights.html">Pornography Addiction Insights For Men and Women</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/the-complexities-of-sexual-addiction.html">The Complexities of Sexual Addiction</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/effects-of-sex-addiction-on-the-partner.html">Effects of Sex Addiction on The Partner</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/sex-addiction-and-financial-issues.html">Sexual Addiction and Financial Issues</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/promiscuity-infidelity-and-meaningless-sex.html">Promiscuity, Infidelity, and Meaningless Sex</a></div>
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<div class="ucd_title"><a href="/types-of-sex-addiction.html">Types of sex addiction</a></div>
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<p><span class="inset-left"> You are not doomed to a life of sex addiction.</span>
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<h1>An Overview Of Sexual Addiction</h1><strong>
<p>The media portray sex addiction as cool. The media are confessing their own ignorance.</p></strong>
<p>Sexual addictions are caused by misuse of a person's natural sex drive. The addiction will usually be started in puberty but it can also be developed later in life. Once started it leads to a compulsion the sexually addicted person tries to avoid, but can't. In the later stages it can affect every part of the person's life. Self-respect, intimate relationships, associations with family and friends, finances and career can take second place to his sexual addiction. If the sexually addicted person is honest with himself, he'll realize that his sex life is underscored by confusion, conflict, and regret. The joy of wonderful loving sex now competes with his sexual addiction.</p>
<p>The movies and the media portray sex addicts as having fun. A sex addict compulsively tries to use sex to conceal his personal problems just as an alcoholic uses booze or a drug addict loses control over his life to drugs. Sexually addictive behavior, like any other addiction, delivers short-term thrills followed by long-term miseries.</p>
<p>Getting a sex addiction stopped is the most important decision the sexually addicted person can make in his or her life. <a href="/advice-about-overcoming-sex-addiction.html" title="title">The Advisories</a> explain causes of sex addiction and the requirements to deal with the it. How to overcome sexual addiction is explained in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a>.</p>
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<h1>The First Obstacle To Overcoming Sexual Addiction</h1>
<p><strong>The fear of failure is normal, especially if you've failed before at stopping.</strong></p>
<p>Just about anyone who acts sexually addictive has made some attempt to stop. It might have been only for a day, but they tried - and they failed. If you've tried to overcome sex addiction before and weren't able to, the biggest barrier to your success is believing you cannot succeed.</p>
<p>Let's imagine you wanted to teach a kid how to ride a bike. You've taught lots of kids and you're sure this kid can make it. He doesn't believe he can. He tried to learn before but was not taught correctly. Now he's sick and tired of failing. You know that the only thing holding him back is his belief that he can't do it.</p>
<p><strong>The answer to the fear of failure is to find a successful approach and persist.</strong></p>
<p>Let's change the problem from learning to ride a bike to learning how to overcome sexual addiction. Remember that the kid felt hopeless because of his past mistakes. This same problem can become your biggest obstacle to success, if you let it. You are not doomed to failure. A good counselor can help you identify your past mistakes and help you correct them before they get in your way.</p>
<p>But what if you don't believe that you can correct your mistakes? Ask yourself this question: "What if my situation isn't hopeless? What if I really can overcome my addiction?"</p>
<p>Here's what it takes to overcome sexual addiction:</p>
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<li>Free will</li>
<li>Knowledge</li>
<li>Hard work.</li></ul>
<p>Good counseling will provide you the knowledge. Good counseling will also help motivate you to make the free will choice to stop. Providing the effort is up to you. Just like the kid who can learn to ride the bike if he makes the effort, you can overcome sexual addiction, once your efforts are properly guided. <a href="/advice-about-overcoming-sex-addiction.html" title="title">The Advisories</a> provide insights about developing effective motivation and will explain other mistakes to be aware of. </p>
<p><strong>Don't let past failures defeat you. Learn from them. Don't give in to hopelessness. Use it to build motivation.</strong></p>
<p>The first obstacle to overcoming sex addiction is not in your genes, your childhood or your environment. The first obstacle is the decision not to try. If you're willing to make the effort, good counseling can guide you to success. The decision to make the effort and find the right guidance doesn't apply only to sexual addiction. It applies to accomplishing anything.</p>
<p>The real life stories and common sense, effective approach explained in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html" title="title">The Most Personal Addiction</a> and <a href="/advice-about-overcoming-sex-addiction.html" title="title">The Advisories</a> will help you gain the knowledge and motivation you need to succeed.</p>
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<h1>Sexual Addiction and Self-deception</h1>
<p><strong>Self deception is the addict's strongest defense against admitting he's addicted</strong>.</p>
<p>Sexual addiction is more deceptive than most other addictions because sexual addiction provides the illusion of pleasure. The pleasure is escapist oriented. When the escape ends, the thrill of the addiction is over and the demands of real life return with a vengeance. Now the sex addict is confronted with the decision to face reality and gain the real pleasures of life or flee back into shallow fantasy. All too often the sex addict decides that sexual addiction is not escape and not an addiction. Some of the rationalizations he uses are:</p>
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<li>"I'm not addicted. I do it to relieve stress."</li>
<li>"It's not an addiction. It's a way of having fun."</li>
<li>"All my friends do it."</li>
<li>"You're uptight about sex. I'm not."</li>
<li>"I have more sex drive than most people."</li>
<li>"It gives me pleasure. It can't be an addiction if I like it."</li>
<li>"I know guys who are sex addicts. I'd never do what they do."</li>
<li>"I'm normal. You're abnormal."</li>
<li>"Sexual addiction is a myth put out by small-minded bigots and hypocrites."</li></ul>
<p>Every one of these rationalizations can be overcome. Overcoming sexual addiction correctly is discussed in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a>. The <a href="/sex-addiction-interview.html" title="title">Sexual Addiction Interview</a> is designed to help you understand sex addiction and address some of the sexually addicted person's rationalizations. The beginning interviews in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a> will also expand your knowledge of what sexual addiction is, how it can be overcome and how sex addicts fool themselves. </p>
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<p>If you know it but he doesn't want to admit it, don't give up. You can get through to him</p></strong></p>
<p>You know that your husband or boyfriend has a sex addiction. But does he know? If he doesn't want to accept that he's sexually addicted, what can you do? Even if he's accepted that he has a problem, is he willing to stop? How can you help him stop?</p>
<p>Let's answer these questions one by one. If you realize that your partner is addicted to sex either through addictive masturbation, compulsive use of porn, a fetish, phone sex or infidelity, but he doesn't want to accept it, here's what to do:</p>
<p>Start by getting him to take the <a title="title" href="/sex-addiction-interview.html">Sexual Addiction Interview</a> and the first interview in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a>. These interviews are designed to help the most defensive sex addict realize what sex addiction is and how it's affecting him and you.</p>
<p>Here are a few more pointers about what the partner can do to help her husband or boyfriend get control over sexual addiction:</p>
<ul>
<li>Don't take on his burden. The job of overcoming the addiction is his, not yours.</li>
<li>Be realistic. Some sexual addictions can be overcome relatively quickly. Others take time.</li>
<li>Give him credit for his successes.</li>
<li>Don't take the blame for his sex addiction. Many times the partner's first reaction when discovering a sexual addiction is, "What's wrong with me? Why doesn't he want to be with me? Why does he want them instead of me?" You did not cause his sexually addictive behavior. He caused it.</li>
<li><a href="/download-or-print.html" title="title">Download the first 48 chapters</a> of The Most Personal Addiction. There's a special section on how to save a relationship threatened by sexual addiction. You can also download The Advisories and The Home Page Topics </li></ul>
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<h1>Pornography Addiction Insights for Men and Women</h1>
<p><strong>Porn enhances a masturbation addiction</strong>.</p>
<p> Pornography is not like any other sexual addiction. It is usually associated with a masturbation addiction; the association will be briefly explained in this article. Other sexual addictions, such as promiscuity, anonymous sex, phone sex, fetishes, and voyeurism, function independently from porn. Contrary to what you are told by the media, there are millions of sex addicts who have no interest in porn.</p>
<p><strong>If the masturbation addiction is overcome CORRECTLY, the interest in porn fades away.</strong> </p>
<p>From a partner's point of view, pornography might seem to be the addiction. If you want to know what the real addiction is, ask your partner if he masturbates when he use porn. There are very, very few sexually addicted people who use porn without masturbating. The sexual charge that seems to be in porn is not the porn. The sexual charge is generated through masturbation. Some men will spend a whole night looking for the "perfect" image to masturbate to. Other will masturbate continuously while looking at pornography. Here's another question which will shed light on the real addiction. Ask you partner, "After you finish masturbating, do you continue looking at porn?" Expect the answer to be "No."</p>
<p> If the real addiction were porn, he'd still be using it even after he finished masturbating. If you want to understand why a man gets addicted to porn learn about the connection between addictive masturbation and pornography. There are articles on this site about masturbation addiction. You need to read them if you're partner seems to have a pornography addiction. </p>
<p>Pornography used in conjunction with addictive masturbation gives the sexually addicted person the illusion that fantasy can be more satisfying than a real relationship. In the most extreme cases, the sexually addicted person prefers sex through pornography addiction instead of loving sex with a real person. Even in these situations, the addiction can be overcome and the relationship can be saved, if the addiction is approached correctly.</p>
<p><strong>A pornography addiction cannot be overcome in the long run without dealing with the underlying masturbation addiction.</strong></p>
<p> If the sexually addicted person is not in a relationship, he faces a different challenge because pornography addiction becomes his sex life. The situation is far from hopeless, though, if the pornography addiction is approached correctly.</p>
<p>For an open-minded discussion about masturbation addiction, <a title="title" href="/masturbation-addiction.html">click here</a>.</p>
<p><a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a> goes into much greater detail about how a porn addiction is overcome.</p>
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<h1>The Complexities of Sexual Addiction</h1>
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<p>Sex addiction is the most personal addiction. It's also the most complex.</p></strong></p>
<p>Successfully overcoming any problem begins with knowing what you're dealing with. Certain addictions don't need to be categorized. For instance, some alcoholics prefer wine, others prefer beer, others will drink anything. These activities don't need to be categorized for the alcoholic because there is no addictive difference between beer, wine, hard liquor, or any other form of alcohol.</p>
<p>Sex addiction, unlike alcohol, is diverse. Conventional, licensed therapy and the 12-step program don't distinguish between the different forms of sexual addiction. They use an "every addiction is the same" approach. Someone struggling with a shoe fetish will be given the same 12 steps as someone addicted to pornography. The husband cheating on his wife will be advised to use the same behavior modification techniques as the sexually addicted person who's never had a long-term relationship.</p>
<p>Are you aware that there are virgin sex addicts? A virgin sex addict is an adult who never had sex with another person. His or her entire sexual experience has been only with themselves through masturbation and/or porn addiction. It's ridiculous to give a virgin sex addict the same treatment as the person who's been promiscuous all their lives. </p>
<p>An obsession with a fetish is not the same problem as a porn addiction. A promiscuous person does not have the same addiction as the virgin sex addict. The husband cheating on his wife is not in the same boat as the voyeur. From these simple examples, we can see that an "every addiction is the same" approach does not apply to sexual addiction.</p>
<p>To begin successfully overcoming sex addiction, apply this easily observable fact:</p>
<p><span>All sexually addictive behavior falls into two categories:</span></p>
<ul>
<li><span>Addictive sex alone</span></li>
<li><span>Addictive sex with someone else</span></li></ul>
<p>The most common forms of <em>addictive sex alone</em> are masturbation addiction and/or pornography addiction.</p>
<p>Promiscuity and infidelity fall into the category of <em>addictive sex with someone else</em>.</p>
<p>The <a href="#types">other sexual addictions</a> can be categorized as either addictive sex alone or with someone else.</p>
<p>Many sexually addicted people have sexual addictions in both categories. Besides identifying which category the addiction resides in, you also need to take into account if the addicted person is in a relationship. <em>A couple trying to hold their relationship together while struggling with a sexual addiction requires a very different approach than the sexually addicted person who is not in a relationship.</em></p>
<p>Understanding if you are engaging in addictive sex alone, or with someone else, or both will help you control your sexual addiction because it will help you understand it better. But identifying a problem does not end it. So here are some resources to help you further:</p>
<ul>
<li><a title="title" href="/sex-addiction-interview.html">The general sexual addiction interview</a></li>
<li><a title="title" href="/for-the-man-in-a-relationship-troubled-by-sex-addiction.html">A sex addiction interview for the man in a relationship</a></li>
<li><a title="title" href="/if-you-lost-a-good-relationship-or-never-had-one.html">For the person who has never had a successful relationship</a></li>
<li><a title="title" href="/is-he-sexually-addicted.html">How to tell if your partner is sexually addicted.</a></li></ul>
<p>For more in-depth discussions of</p>
<ul>
<li>Pornography addiction</li>
<li>How and why men get addicted to porn</li>
<li>Masturbation addiction</li>
<li>Promiscuity and infidelity</li>
<li>Fetishes</li>
<li>Phone sex</li>
<li>Other sexual addictions</li></ul>
<p>Use:</p>
<ul>
<li><a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a>.</li>
<li><a title="title" href="/advice-about-overcoming-sex-addiction.html">Advice About Sex Addiction </a></li></ul>
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<h1>Effects of Sexual Addiction on The Partner</h1>
<p>When it comes to relationships, sexually addicted people can be classified into two major groups:</p>
<ul>
<li>Those who seek relationships to satisfy their addiction.</li>
<li>Those who have a sexual addiction that conflicts with their genuine, loving relationship.</li></ul>
<p>The person whose relationships are defined by sexual addiction uses people for an addictive fix. Characteristically, this type of sex addict doesn't get into long-term relationships. S/he does not represent most sexually addicted people.</p>
<p>The majority of sexually addicted people seek a long-term committed relationship. They are serious about commitment. But their sexual addiction creates an impersonal barrier between the relationship they want to develop and the addictive fantasy life they're obsessed with.</p>
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<p>The partner usually doesn't discover her man is sexualy addicted until after she's committed herself to him.</p></strong></p>
<p>The partner of a sexually addicted person experiences emotional and/or sexual neglect. Usually, the sexually addicted person doesn't even realize that his sexual addiction is creating emotional barriers between him and his partner. In some cases, he doesn't realize it until he loses the relationship.</p>
<p>When the partner discovers that her man is sexually addicted, she will usually suffer more than he will because she might feel that she has to compete against his sexual compulsion. She also might feel that her relationship is hopelessly lost to sexual addiction. Yet, in most cases she will stay until the bitter end trying to save her relationship.</p>
<p>Millions of sexually addicted people have lost good relationships and their loving families because they did not overcome their addiction. Relationships don't have to end because of sex addiction. The addiction can be overcome and the couple can build the marriage they had expected to have.</p>
<p>If you are not sure your sexual activity is addictive or if you want to learn how it affects your relationship, take the <a title="title" href="/sex-addiction-interview.html">Sexual Addiction Interview</a> and the interviews in <a title="title" href="/sex-addiction-interview.html">The Most Personal Addiction.</a> </p>
<p>If you are the partner of a sexually addicted person or you are not sure if your partner is sexually addicted, there is a special interview in <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a> for partners of sexually addicted people.</p>
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<h1>Sexual Addiction and Financial Issues</h1>
<p>Sexual addiction is not free. Even the person with a porn addiction who gets his porn for free on the Internet pays for his addiction by investing his valuable time and precious effort into fantasy. Everything has a price. Sometimes the loss of money is the least painful price. The toll that sexual addiction takes on a relationship and the emotional isolation it causes cannot be healed by money.</p>
<p>Those sexually addicted people who spend money on their addiction usually don't realize how much they're spending. They don't want to look at the financial costs because adding up how much they've spent can ruin the fantasy.</p>
<p>A sex addict can invest hours surfing the Internet and not even realize he's lost an entire evening to sex addiction until the sun comes up to remind him that there is a life outside of fantasy. Every addicted person deludes him or herself about the real costs of their addiction.</p>
<p><strong>Money can buy plenty. But you can't buy your way into love and you can't buy your way out of addiction.</strong></p>
<p>The worst price paid for sexual addiction is loss of an intimate relationship. Another high price is finding yourself trapped in a world of emotional isolation. Losing your job, being sued, sinking into bankruptcy, or loss of savings are some of the other consequences of sexual addiction. They're the lesser ones compared to the loss of genuine loving intimacy.</p>
<p>There is an old saying, "The best things in life are free." Another way of expressing this sentiment is, "The smallest personal consequence is money." The real riches in life are gained through intimacy and effectively dealing with reality. You can escape reality, avoid intimacy and still make lots of money. But money can't buy you love.</p>
<p>The <a href="/sex-addiction-interview.html">Sex Addiction Interview</a> and <a href="/the-most-personal-addiction.html">The Most Personal Addiction</a> offer more advice about the personal and financial aspects of sexual addiction.</p>
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<h1>Promiscuity, Infidelity, and Meaningless Sex</h1>
<p>A promiscuous person has meaningless sexual encounters with numerous people.</p>
<p>By comparison, some people who engage in meaningless sex have only one partner.</p>
<p>The promiscuous person and the person who has meaningless sex with only one partner share a common trait. They are both attempting to avoid intimacy.</p>
<p>Genuine loving sex requires commitment and emotional vulnerability.</p>
<p><strong>The difference between meaningless sex and loving sex is the difference between addiction and intimacy</strong></p>
<p>Meaningless sex releases a person from emotional vulnerability. The person might be completely faithful to his or her partner, but they are not emotionally committed to the partner. The partner is a human sex toy. Some people take a warm bath for relaxation and enjoyment. Some people read a book, listen to music, take a walk, or spend time with friends. For the person with one meaningless sex partner, sex is just another form of taking a warm bath, or any other non-intimate activity.</p>
<p>The promiscuous person doesn't even make the effort to create any kind of loyal relationship. To him or her, people are interchangeable bodies. As one promiscuous person told me, "I don't want to be stuck wi